Hello, Purrlings… I’m back to talk about something that might be a bit taboo for some, but bear with me – it’s important. I’m talking about letting your kink flag fly! And yeah, I know that’s such a cheesy phrase, but whatever. Cheese is good and it’s okay to be cheesy when you’re confident.
Now, I know what you might be thinking – you can’t talk about your kinks because they’re private. I get that, I really do. But this here is a kink-friendly blog, so you’re safe, and talking about kinks is both exhilarating and informational. I love to hear about new kinks. Not to mention embracing your kinks and fetishes is nothing to be ashamed of.
In fact, it can be incredibly empowering to explore your desires and be open about what turns you on. I know that when I talk about my kinks people and I hear their stories and learn new kinks, I can’t wait to try them out with my husband to see if they’re something we’d like to do again.
For me, exploring my kinks and fetishes has been a journey; I had a blog post awhile back where I talked about struggling with intimacy as I got older, and my body changed. It’s taken me years to become comfortable with my own desires and want to explore them with my husband. But it’s been worth it. I’ve discovered parts of myself I never knew existed, and I’ve grown closer to my husband as a result.
But it’s not just about finding someone who shares your kinks. It’s about being true to yourself and not feeling ashamed of what you enjoy. Maybe you’re into BDSM, or have a foot fetish (and if so, shameless plug for my Feet Finder page), or enjoy dressing up in latex. Whatever it is, don’t be afraid to embrace it! I’d totally try latex, except I’m allergic to it…
Now, I’m not saying you should start shouting their kinks from the rooftops. It’s a personal thing, but definitely don’t shy away from those conversations or interjecting them into existing conversations if the topics trend that way. You might be surprised at how many others are into the same things as you.
And for those who aren’t sure what their kinks might be, I encourage you to explore! And one way to explore is through conversation! You never know where that might lead, which is to the bedroom… or the couch… or the car… the restaurant bathroom (for all my public kinksters out there). There’s no shame in trying new things and seeing what turns you on. Just remember to always communicate with your partner and practice safe, consensual play.
As you all know, I’m a proud mama bear to four amazing boys, one of which is currently off conquering the world—or rather, the college campus. As our family continues to grow and change, I can’t help but think about the importance of self-expression, authenticity, and communication. It’s like that famous quote from Gandalf the Grey (or was it the White? My memory isn’t what it used to be).
“All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.”
And you know what? I wholeheartedly agree.
You’re all probably wondering what this has to do with our kinks. For me, it’s all about embracing your true self and not being afraid to share that with the people you love and trust. We’re all unique, and that’s what makes life so interesting. Like they say, variety is the spice!
I mean, think about it. How boring would it be if we were all the same? I think we’re all a little kinky, and that’s what makes us beautiful. So, be kinky and be proud of who you are. Just like my mama used to say, “If you can’t be yourself, who can you be?”
This blog is always open to kinky people and kinky conversations! I would love to hear from you!
Thanks for coming to my PurrTalk, brought to you by all the kinky people I have not yet met.
Valentine Fox Books 